What is grief?
Grief is your emotional reaction to
a significant loss. The words sorrow and heartache are often used to describe
feelings of grief. Whether you lose a beloved person, animal, place, or object,
or a valued way of life (such as your job, marriage, or good health), some
level of grief will naturally follow.
Anticipatory grief is grief
that strikes in advance of an impending loss. You may feel anticipatory grief
for a loved one who is sick and dying. Similarly, both children and adults
often feel the pain of losses brought on by an upcoming move or divorce. This
anticipatory grief helps us prepare for such losses.
What is grieving?
Grieving is the process of
emotional and life adjustment you go through after a loss. Grieving after a
loved one's death is also known as bereavement.
Grieving is a
personal experience. Depending on who you are and the nature of your loss, your
process of grieving will be different from another person's experience. There
is no "normal and expected" period of time for grieving. Some people adjust to
a new life within several weeks or months. Others take a year or more,
particularly when their daily life has been radically changed or their loss was
traumatic and unexpected.
What are common symptoms of grief and grieving?
wide range of feelings and symptoms are common during grieving. While you are feeling
shock, numbness, sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, or fear, you may also find
moments of relief, peace, or happiness. And although grieving is not simply sadness,
"the blues," or
depression, you may become depressed or overly anxious
during the grieving process.
The stress of grief and grieving can
take a physical toll on your body. Sleeplessness is common, as is a weakened
immune system over time. If you have a chronic
illness, grieving can make your condition worse.
How is grieving treated?
Social support, good
self-care, and the passage of time are usually the best medicine for grieving.
But if you find that your grief is making it difficult to function for more
than a week or two, contact a grief counselor or bereavement support group for
If you have trouble functioning for longer than a couple of
weeks because of depression or
anxiety, talk to your doctor. Treatment with medicines
or counseling can help speed your recovery.
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